Adding humor as you’re talking with people can be a risky business, but they can also add interest and sparkle to your conversations. People like, listen to, and trust more to those who make them laugh. A study conducted by Jeffery Hall, who’s a researcher from the University of Kansas, observed two different men having conversations with people out in public and afterwards, he interviewed the people about how they felt about those 2 men.
The first man, who was considered extremely smart, had a poor performance in trying to be funny and the second man, actually had an average intelligence, demonstrated he had great ability to make people laugh in his conversations. Surprisingly, at the end, he discovered that many of the people that talked with these two guys, all perceived that the second man, who was funnier, came off as more intelligent than the first man.
This could really a problem in many life situations such as when you’re trying to talk with a girl who starts to feel that you have a poor sense of humor. Humor is perhaps one of the most important ways to attract girls. For example when a girl laughs, she releases massive amounts of dopamine in her brain, which is known as the feel good hormone and interestingly, women release more so than men do.
So being funny is a huge important step in building a stronger relationship between you and the girl you’re talking with. That’s awesome! Coming up, by the end of this article, you will have learned 3 new styles of humor that you can use effectively so you can be the next star of your future conversations. Let’s get started. Making people laugh really comes down to your understanding how sense of humor works. You see, the sense of humor is essentially how you connect different things together in an unexpected surprising way.
But after learning that, the only difference you really need to know is how to adjust your style of humor to different kinds of people and situations that requires different types of humor. So what’s a great start for beginners to help them get started? The first type of humor I recommend for beginners to start with is called Misdirection Humor. Misdirection is mainly based off the audience’s assumption and you’ll realize it’s quite simple to use.
The idea behind this humor is setting up an expectation of whatever you’re talking about that’s going in one way and then saying something that goes the other way. It can be as easy as setting expectations in the first couple words or as you tell a story and then flip it to something unexpected. Doing this makes you look like you have great situational awareness and the ability to come with a clever or comical observation.
It also makes you look like you’re able to think on your feet that shows to others that you be charming and earn other people’s affection and interest. So first, before you end your talk with something that the person expects you to say, you should start asking yourself, “What does my audience expect me to say right now? “Once you figured it out in that moment what they think you’ll say, it’s simple from here on out by just saying the exact opposite.
Essentially, this is called the punchline because it’s based on revealing that what we expected to happen – did not. In fact, something completely different happened. And the less we expect what actually happened – the funnier it becomes.
Here’s a great example of misdirection: I heard an old wise man once said…. “Never follow anyone else’s path, “unless you’re in the woods and you’re lost and you see a path. Then by all means follow that path. “You probably expected to hear more about why you shouldn’t follow someone’s path, then when the punchline came in, it surprised you enough for can result in a laugh.
That’s basically misdirection. Definitely try it out. The next type of humor you can use is called self-enhancing humor. This humor involves the ability to laugh at yourself, such as making a joke when something bad has happened to you. It’s also trying to find the humor in everyday situations, and making yourself the target of the humor in a good-natured way. Here’s an example that I personally did that you could do: Whenever you make a mistake in public, you can simply make a joke about it and laugh it off.
Not only will your embarrassment lessen, but it can also help you come off as fun to be with. Say that you slipped and fell on your butt at a party. Instead of bawling in humiliation, you can just get up, dust your pants, and joke, “No rips, no holes. Nothing to see here, people. Carry on. “In this situation, it similar to misdirection humor because people anticipated you to say “Sorry about that” or something along those lines.
But instead, you misdirected them with something surprisingly positive for yourself. Almost 100% of the time, you’ll find other people laughing with you, not at you. And finally we have Affiliative Humor. This is a way of amusing others to facilitate relationships and this is a powerful stiletto use when you meet people for the first time because it is positive and inclusive.
This can work very well in the workplace, it works in team-building activities, and dance parties. Remember to make other people laugh, you need to be relaxed or else your audience will not feel relaxed enough to laugh.
Here are some examples that uses affiliative humor that you can use for starting conversations!
“Excuse me, but I do think it’s about time we meet “This will put a smile on most people’s faces without sounding too intimidating.
“What kind of old person do you want to be? “This really intrigues people. Everyone hopes to get old and so they will have an opinion. Also, though, it will make people smile because you are taking old age as something positive- an unusual twist on any everyday topic will make people interested.
“What present would you buy me if you won the lottery tomorrow? “Of course, if you just met the person, this is funny because they probably wouldn’t buy you a present!
“If you worked at a circus, which job would you want to have? “This will test their sense of humor and light-heartedness.
Here’s a few tips that we recommend that you should know about as well:
- Try to work the joke into the context of the conversation.
- Don’t ask if they want to hear a joke, let it be a surprise. Have a strategy to fall back on if they don’t get the joke, for example: “I guess you had to be there…”
- Breathe – take a breath and pause before and after the punch line
- Smile and wait for the joke to sink in That’s pretty much how you can start using humor effectively into your future conversations!
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